There are some relatively simple things that we often take for granted, they have very major effects. For example, do you recall when you said a word of appreciation to your husband, or even your boy friend? There is no need of arguing as to who should make the first move in giving appreciation to the other.
You just go ahead and start appreciating him and you will reap very good results. We tend to think that it's the men who should make us feel appreciated, but we too have the responsibility of appreciating them.
First of all, you should bear in mind that your man won't be happy when you are not happy yourself. In fact, this will make him feel like a loser. He will feel better when you are happy, but he will stop making any effort to make you happy when there is no apparent result. This means that if you would like your man to put more effort in your relationship, then you should appreciate him. He will realize that his energies do not go in vain.
One of the worst things you can do is to belittle your man in front of other people. This is among the most effective ways of discouraging a man. When you discourage him in such a way, he won't try harder to please you as you probably expect. Instead, he will tend to take even the things he used to take care of for granted. As a result, your results will suffer considerably.
It is therefore important for you to know how to appreciate your man. These are some of the things you should take into consideration.
1.) Be enthusiastic when you meet and greet him. Light up both your faces with a warm smile.
2.) Appreciate him when you are in the company of other people. Keep anything negative about him to yourself.
3.) Find something that you truly appreciate in him and let him know of it. Avoid flattery but be honest with your appreciation. He will not only feel better but he will also put greater effort in perfecting himself. In addition to polishing the area you have appreciated, he will try to improve other areas as well.
4.) One of the things that people tend to forget as their relationships become more established is to play with each other. Bring back the sparkle by being playful.
5.) In case you have any need, let him know of it clearly without trying to make him feel guilty for not taking that need into consideration. For example, instead of telling him that he never thinks of a given thing just let him know that you would appreciate it if he did it.
6.) When he does the thing you wanted him to do, thank him for it. You should even give him a special treat.
7.) Verbally let him know of your love. Actually saying it will make a big difference.
8.) You will hardly convince your man about many of the things stated above when you do not listen to him. Give him your eye when he shares with you some of the things that mean a lot to him. That is not the time to give advice or make judgments. Just listen and let him know that you are there for him.
These 8 things will make your man know that you appreciate him.
Ugh . . . this is really difficult for me right now because:
A. This dress is kind of hot.
B. This dress is kind of slutty.
C. Gwyneth is being kind of annoying about this whole Country Strong business right now.
(So, I guess it is socially acceptable to like Kanye again(?))
1. Kanye West, My Beautiful Dark Twisted Fantasy
2. The Black Keys, Brothers
3. Elton John and Leon Russell, The Union
4. Arcade Fire, The Suburbs
5. Jamey Johnson, The Guitar Song
6. Vampire Weekend, Contra
7. Drake, Thank Me Later
8. Robert Plant, Band of Joy
9. Eminem, Recovery
10. LCD Soundsystem, This Is Happening
11. The Dead Weather, Sea of Cowards
12. John Mellencamp, No Better Than This
13. Taylor Swift, Speak Now
14. Robyn, Body Talk
15. The National, High Violet
16. Kid Rock, Born Free
17. Beach House, Teen Dream
18. Kings of Leon, Come Around Sundown
19. M.I.A., Maya
20. Neil Young, Le Noise
21. Big Boi, Sir Lucious Left Foot: The Son of Chico Dusty
22. Spoon, Transference
23. Elizabeth Cook, Welder
24. Maximum Balloon, Maximum Balloon
25. Superchunk, Majesty Shredding
26. Yeasayer, Odd Blood
27. Peter Wolf, Midnight Souvenirs
28. My Chemical Romance, Danger Days: The True Lives of the Fabulous Killjoys
29. The Roots, How I Got Over
30. Rick Ross, Teflon Don